Change Comes With Consequences
Yes. Change comes with consequences. Those consequences can be frightening, which is why many people are scared to change. But for those who are brave enough, the consequences can be very exciting and open the doors to lasting change and a life of self-confidence, meaning and happiness.
Think about it…you have been asking your husband to take the kids to the park, bring in the groceries from the car, or help move the folding chairs from your basement to your dining room because you are hosting Shabbos lunch. He is overweight, and it’s difficult for him to physically move because his knees hurt, he pulled his back, or his arthritis is acting up. So, you do everything yourself, stepping out of your feminine energy and into your masculine energy, because things need to get done in the house.
Now, let’s say that your husband starts eating healthy foods, drinking more water, and exercises regularly. He will most likely lose weight. Maybe his knees and back won’t hurt anymore, and his arthritis will show up less. Then, he will no longer have the excuse of physical aches and pains for why he can’t help around the house. Then he might actually have to show up for the family in ways he isn’t comfortable with…like interacting with you and the kids. That can be really scary for him.
Your husband’s physical ailments used to be a way to escape and avoid responsibility. But, now that he is healthy, he has to do something that he dreads…engage in relationships. This makes him vulnerable and opens him up to criticism and confrontation from you and/or the kids. He may not be ready to take responsibility for his past actions (like not having been there for his family) or make corrections in his behavior (be more loving and attentive as he participates in family dynamics.) What he doesn’t realize is that he could be missing out on creating a loving bond between himself, his children, and his wife. He could enrich his family relationships, which could give him and his family members immense joy and pleasure.
We can all be like this sometimes. We are most comfortable with what we know, and we dread what we don’t know. We are afraid to makes changes in our mindset, in our speech, and in our behavior…because what if we succeed? What if we actually reach our desired goals and create the life we want to live? We would lose the weight, learn to emotionally regulate our nervous system, learn how to step into our feminine energy, create loving relationships with our husband and children…and then what?
We leave behind the version of ourselves that no longer served us, and step into a higher, more elevated version of ourselves. We become more authentic, living the life that we have chosen for ourselves and one that we worked hard to co-create with G-d. This new reality is so incredibly beautiful, but it can be a bit scary, at first, until we get used to it. At that point, we can never imagine going back to our old lives of pain and suffering. This is brave work. That’s why we don’t do this alone. Reach out to me so that I can support you as you step into the highest version of yourself! I am available to you 24/6, even between sessions. We can do this together!
